Experiencing the loss of someone important to us is a challenge that we all face at some time in our lives, whether through the death of a loved one, or through the ending of an important relationship. But knowing that others have experienced something similar doesn't necessarily make the pain any easier to manage.
You may find that friends and others are uncomfortable and don't know how best to support you, and you (or others) may impose unrealistic expectations about how quickly you should be 'moving on'. There is no set timetable for how bereavement or loss affects someone, and no set formula for how to get through it, but it is a good idea to make sure you have some kind of support.
It is always advisable to let your personal tutor or course leader know if you are having difficulties affecting your studies – they are there to help, and can offer useful advice and support. Consult your GP if you are feeling persistently low, or if your difficulties are significantly affecting your daily functioning beyond the initial aftermath of the loss.
Useful resources for loss and bereavement
The Bereavement Centre >
Local support for bereaved people, including free 1-to-1 counselling, support, friendship and social groups, and life coaching.
Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide >
This self-help organisation supports those bereaved by the suicide of a close relative or friend. There's a confidential helpline, information leaflets, support by e-mail, group meetings (including a Portsmouth branch), and events.
CRUSE Bereavement Care >
Large charity that promotes the wellbeing of bereaved people, helping people to understand their grief and cope with their loss.
Student Space >
Learn more about loss, and how you can support yourself through it.
Amparo >
Free and confidential support following suicide, for as long as you need it.
More wellbeing help
Take a look at our other resources and sources of support for help with everything - from issues with alcohol, to healing from trauma.
Contact the Student Wellbeing Service
Access mental health support and guidance from our friendly team of wellbeing advisers, counsellors and advisers:
Or you can contact us via:
- +44 (0)23 9284 3466
- The Bateson Centre, The Mary Rose St, Portsmouth, PO1 2BL
- wellbeing-admin@port.ac.uk
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